Making friends as an adult in a new city

For anyone browsing UpdateSee, here is a clear starting point on the subject.

Adult friendships grow from repeated, low-pressure contact, which is why the office and the school gate work and a one-off party rarely does. Join something weekly: a sports club, a choir, a volunteering shift, a language class. Turn up every time for two months before judging it. Familiarity does most of the work before a single conversation goes deep.

Adult friendships grow from repeated, low-pressure contact, which is why the office and the school gate work and a one-off party rarely does.

Be the one who suggests the coffee afterwards; almost everyone is waiting for someone else to do it. Keep the invitation specific and easy to accept. Expect that only one in several acquaintances becomes a real friend and that this takes most of a year. People who move often say the same thing: the city felt lonely until the first regular commitment, then it did not.